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That Which Doesn’t Suit Us

Years ago, I bought a suit.

The cut was classic.

The color would go with anything!

The price was right.

And, more importantly, it fit!


The only thing wrong with the suit was that it didn’t look good on me.  I don’t know why…it just didn’t.


But I bought it anyway.

Like most classic suits, the style could last for years.

Because it was well made, it would last forever.

I was hopeful I would grow to like the way it looked on me.

It fit…and because it fit, it was comfortable.

At the time, I believed I had no reason not to buy it!


So I wore it

…even though I didn’t like the way I looked in it.

…even though wearing it decreased my confidence.

…even though I wasn’t at my best when it was on me.

…even though I ignored my reflection in the mirror and in windows.

Despite the fact that it did not look good on me, I wore it.


One day, I was desperate to round up clothes to donate for an event in support of women needing a helping hand with their careers.  Donations were supposed to be clothes, shoes, bags, briefcases, etc.  I had forgotten about the event and, in the previous weekend, I had cleaned out closets for donations to the Salvation Army.

As I was the Emcee for this Helping Hand event, I was aghast that I had reserved nothing to donate!  I scoured my closet once more and my eyes settled on that suit.

I put it on, I took it off.

I put it on with different shirts, I took it off.

I tried wearing each piece as separates, I took them all off.

Simple fact was that the suit didn’t look good on me.


So I donated it.

Desperation sometimes causes us to give up “comfort.”

Desperation sometimes causes us to look beyond what is readily available.

Desperation sometimes causes us to try something new.

Desperation makes us, well, desperate – and only then are we willing to take risks.

I volunteered the whole day at the event and I had the opportunity to see the woman who received the suit.  When she came out of the dressing room, I was overwhelmed.

That suit was perfect for her; she looked like a million bucks!


While this beautiful young lady stood before me, I came to realize some valuable life lessons:

Often, we hold onto something because

technically, it fits.

technically, it’s practical.

technically, we fear we may not find a replacement.

technically, we can’t find a compelling reason to let it go.


However, I believe we need to realize that

Someone else may love and appreciate what we are holding onto.

Someone else may be more valued when they possess that which devalued us.

And, perhaps the most valuable lesson of that day is one I have reminded myself of time and time again this year.


Only when we let go of our past are we free to try something new!


If and when the time comes, may you let go of that which doesn’t suit you.


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Heather Kinzie • November 11, 2012

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  1. Dan Johnson November 12, 2012 - 3:51 pm Reply

    Well put! This can apply to many aspects in life. Next time I am in your shop I will have to tell you my puzzle theory.

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